7 Misconceptions About The Middle East

The more I integrate myself into the cultures of the Middle East, the more I cringe when I hear people of my native American culture making inaccurate statements about the people I’ve come to know so well. So I’ve written up this short list of misconceptions about the Middle East, followed by actual truths.

Common misconceptions about the Middle East

Muslim Women in the Middle East are Required to Cover their Heads

If you want to make a Middle Eastern Muslim woman angry – or make them laugh at you – tell them that you think they have to cover their heads. In most of the Middle East wearing a hijab is usually driven by cultural, family and personal values. It is not because of law, requirement or force.

People of all religions in this region, including Islam, are more modest than in westernized parts of the world. Men even cover their heads with scarves in some parts of the Middle East, such as in the Bedouin cultures and the Arabian Gulf countries. Some older men in Palestine, Jordan and Israel cover their heads with scarves as well.

Iran and Saudi Arabia may require women to cover their heads in public. These countries, though, have more strict laws than most countries. Most of the Middle East is much more moderate.

The Roles of Men and Women in the Middle East are Strictly Defined

Not exactly. In this part of the world gender roles are more traditional, as they were in the Western world decades ago. But people are people first and genders second.

Men work. Women work. Women take care of the children. Men take care of the children. Women cook. Men cook. Unfortunately, some women smoke. So do some men. Fortunately, some women also exercise and take care of their health. Fortunately, so do some men. The list goes on and on.

Middle Easterners are Anti-American

This is one of the biggest misconceptions about the Middle East. Hundreds of times throughout the years when I’ve told Middle Easterners I’m American, they have responded by saying America! and welcoming me to their country enthusiastically. Even as a Christian living in ultra-strict Islamic city of Sharjah, UAE. Even alone on the streets of Cairo when the city was hopping with fear and suspicion in the years immediately post-revolution.

I have never personally had nor has anyone ever told me they’ve experienced any type of negative response to being American in the Middle East. The majority of the people of the Middle East are not anti-American, period.

Middle Easterners Target Americans

Target us for what? Terror attacks? Of all the misconceptions about the Middle East, this one is the most off base.

In Israel the Arabs and Jews target each other. They are not interested in anyone else. In the rest of the Middle East, terrorists target enemy factions, the local population or whoever is in their way. Americans are sometimes victims of terrorism in the Middle East, but we are almost never the focus.

Men in the Middle East Control the Women

Almost without exception the women in the Middle Eastern cultures I know are not controlled by men. The word “controlled” is very harsh, inaccurate and demeaning. In Middle Eastern countries it is typical for men to be the heads of the family, as was the case decades ago in the US. This is not about control and oppression, this is about cultural tradition.

I do know one culture in one country where most if not all of the women actually are very much under strict control of the male leader of their family as well as other men in their family. This is a horrible situation, worse than it sounds, and I hope it’s going to end soon.

Women in the Middle East are Not Allowed to Drive

This is now one of the most outdated of the misconceptions about the Middle East and is 100% false. This was true only in Saudi Arabia, and that country has now changed the law regarding women driving. Women in Oman, Egypt, the U.A.E. and all over the Middle East have been driving all along. Saudi Arabian law now allows women to drive as well.

Jews and Arabs in Israel Hate Each Other

Actually, this one is not entirely a misconception. But it is not entirely true either.

Many Arabs in Israel hate Jews. Many Jews in Israel hate Arabs. But many do not.

There are Arabs and Jews who work together in Israel. Many Jews and Arabs are friends. There are almost no Jews and Arabs who intermarry, as this will usually result in total estrangement from both of their extended families and sometimes will lead to death. At the same time, though, there are Jews and Arabs inside Israel who work hard side by side in organized groups to try to make peace. So hopefully one day the Arab/Jew conflict will also be a total misconception.